Big Discipline Mistakes You Need To Avoid
You’ve no doubt heard it before but it bears repeating—your child didn’t come with an easy to read manual so you’d know exactly how to act when they refuse to get ready for daycare or to go to bed. Making discipline mistakes is part of growing and learning as a better parent, but of course you want to avoid making the same errors over and over again. Remember, there’s no reason why you should feel guilty about needing a few adjustments in the way you discipline your child because no one’s toddler comes with an instruction booklet.
Acting When You’re Mad
Restraint always carries a number one priority. If you try and discipline your child when you’re mad, the chances of yelling or saying something increase dramatically. For example, the first thing Mom or Dad needs to do after their son or daughter has thrown a tantrum at the mall is stay calm. Remove yourself from the situation and take a few moments to reflect before you say anything. Keep in mind that time outs work wonders for parents too.
If you scold your daughter one week for not picking up her toys and then let her leave them laying around the house for a month, the child is bound to become confused by the lack of clear direction from her parents. The trick for discipline success here is not only being clear, but realistic. Calendars are a great way to tell him on what specific day you expect his room to be cleaned and be sure to stay away from degrees of punishment when he breaks the rules. He’ll learn what you expect and when and you’ll both be happier for it.
It’s tempting to offer a piece of chocolate as a reward to get your daughter to finish her vegetables, but there’s also a very good reason why that kind of behavior has made our list. Parents often keep a good bribe in their bag of tricks as a way to get through the grocery store or a road trip to Grandma’s, but there’s a better way. In fact, experts say reinforcing good behavior is the best practice and telling your child you are proud of the way they acted at the store afterward is much better than promising them a toy if they do the same beforehand. The toy or candy will soon be forgotten, but your approval is something they’ll always be looking for.
Finally, you need to remember children are always watching so you can’t be caught breaking your own rules. Telling your son that throwing toys in the house is something you won’t tolerate and then tossing the dog’s ball into another room to get it out of the way as you vacuum will be duly noted. He might even impose a time out on you, but at least you’ll have the compensation of knowing your rules are sinking in!
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Author: Rob Starr