How to Make Time with Your Partner When You Have Kids

Once you and your significant other decide to become parents, it creates a shift in your relationship. While in the past, your priorities were one another, now there is a child (or children) who needs a great deal of your love and attention. Children take up a lot of time and energy and there can be little left for your partner. In order to make your relationship last and remain a happy one, you must find a way to make quality time for each other. Here are some ways to keep the romance alive even when you have kids.

Designate a “Date Night”

Days go by in a snap, days turn into weeks, weeks into months… you know where this is headed. Before you know it, months can pass without a date alone with your partner. It may not sound spontaneous, but pick a day on your calendar and mark it as a date night. Line up a babysitter as far in advance as possible so you are not in a bind. It doesn’t matter what you choose to do – it could be dinner, a movie, bowling, whatever – as long as it’s just the two of you enjoying each other’s company and de-stressing. Try not to talk too much about the kids, make it about the two of you.

Take ½ Hour Before Bedtime to Share Private Thoughts

When you have kids, you can be drained of energy by the end of a long day. While you may be inclined to close your eyes the moment your head hits the pillow, try to stay awake for a while. Talk quietly with your partner about each other’s day, topics in the news, or even a little gossip. Spending this time hearing each other’s thoughts is important. It keeps you in tune with what the other is thinking about and to be able to release the mind before sleep is beneficial. You will be able to fall asleep knowing you were heard and that your partner was too.

Plan a Surprise

Spark some lost romance with a special surprise for your partner. It doesn’t need to be over the top; just the fact that you planned something is a loving gesture. Indulge your partner with a pancake breakfast in bed. Give your partner a 20 minute shoulder rub after a long day at the office. Do your partners share of the household chores one evening. Whatever you think will put a smile on their face is worth it!

How do you make time with your partner now that you are parents? Has it made a difference in your relationship? For more info like this, please visit All My Children blogs.

By: Melissa A. Kay