Caught in a Lie – What to Do If Your Child is Not Telling the Truth

Caught in a Lie – What to Do If Your Child is Not Telling the Truth

No one wants to think there will come a day when their child lies to them or someone else. Parents strive to teach their kids the importance of honesty, integrity, and doing the right thing. But as children grow and learn boundaries, they may take the chance to find out what happens if they choose to tell a lie, embellish a story, or misrepresent a situation or circumstance. What’s a parent to do? This can be a difficult topic to tackle. Kids need to understand the difference between good and bad and right from wrong. As parents, it’s our role and obligation to steer our kids in the direction to becoming upstanding citizens, good people, and trustworthy individuals. Here are some ways to deal with a child who has been lying. Dealt with early, children can learn and come to realize their less-than-exemplary ways and change their behavior for the better. Get the Real Story There’s a reason your child lied. Most kids lie to cover something up or to protect themselves from what they think is a worse fate. Let your child know he won’t be in trouble if he now tells you the truth. Ask why he didn’t come forth with this information in the first place. Was he afraid? Upset? Nervous? Did he think you’d be disappointed in him if you knew the truth? Make sure your child knows that you are always on his side. While the truth may not make you happy, it’s always better than trying to fool you or disrespect your authority. Kids will be less apt to lie if they feel...
New Year’s Resolutions for Kids

New Year’s Resolutions for Kids

2017 is upon us and many of us make promises and plans for the year to come in the form of resolutions. Get the kids in on the action too with some ideas that will make the year better and brighter for them as they grow and prosper. Resolutions are a great way to teach our children to strive to become well-rounded, better friends to their peers, higher achievers, and more caring individuals. If your child is unsure about what his resolutions should be, here are some ideas to get his thoughts flowing. He may like these or use them as inspiration. Let’s all say “cheers” to a prosperous and happy year to come!   Have More Patience A useful resolution that is important for people of all ages is to be more patient. Whether it’s cutting his brother or sister a little slack or thinking before saying something he may regret, patience is a virtue that will only make your child a better version of himself. He can practice by being more tolerant when he’s frustrated, allowing his friends or siblings to try something first, or waiting his turn without becoming antsy. With patience comes a sense of calm and stability that your child will take into his adult years.   Read More Reading is educational and entertaining for kids (and adults) of all ages. Encourage your child to resolve to read more often, aside from his school assignments. He can read rather than watching TV or playing video games and learn that the fun and adventure can be even greater when they jump off the pages of...
3 Ways to Make Homework More Fun

3 Ways to Make Homework More Fun

After a long day at school, kids want to come home and relax, play, or eat. But like most kids, they’ll have homework to complete before they head back to school the next day. Sure, some kids enjoy the extra challenges homework can bring and love using the tools and knowledge they’ve gathered in class to delve right in to their homework assignments. But for most kids, homework’s a chore and they don’t look forward to it at all. What’s a parent to do? For starters, you can make homework more fun and your child won’t find the after-school work to be so tedious and dreadful. Here are some tips to make homework more enjoyable for your child. Pair Work with a Snack Rather than offering an after-school snack before or after homework time, provide an easy-to-eat snack to enjoy while doing homework to make the task seem to go by faster. While munching, your child can focus on her work while getting a boost of energy to remain engaged. Some good snack choices are a bowl of grapes, baby carrots with hummus, celery stalks filled with cream cheese or peanut butter, crackers and cheese, or a smoothie. The notion that she’ll get a treat while working will make the homework something to look forward to. Just make sure it’s not something that will drip onto her worksheets! Do it Outside When the weather is mild, rather than sitting at a desk in her room or at the kitchen table, allow your child to do her work in the backyard, on the front deck or patio, at the park...
How to Get Your Child to Be More Outspoken in Class

How to Get Your Child to Be More Outspoken in Class

Some children are naturally extroverted and have no issues with raising their hand and contributing in class. They are vocal, outgoing, and participatory. Then there are those kids who keep to themselves, are shy, or feel timid when it comes to classroom participation. These kids may know the answers or want to chime in, but their hesitance to be outspoken triumphs over their urge to share. While not every kid will have the same level of energy or confidence, there are ways to help your child open up and become more self-assured so he can be more outspoken in class. It’s important that your child is part of the learning experience, and that doesn’t mean sitting at his desk quietly all the time. Teachers encourage participation and when your child is excited, rather than nervous to do so, it’s a win-win for the teacher and your child. The whole class will benefit when everyone’s part of the experience! Here are some ways to give your child the confidence to be more outspoken. Practice at Home While doing homework, suggest that your child reads his answers aloud to you rather than having you look over his work. This will get him used to answering with confidence and talking about schoolwork to others. Even if the answer’s incorrect, it’s OK to say it out loud. That may be what’s worrying him at school – being wrong and others knowing it. As long as he tried hard and did the work, every kid’s going to be wrong now and then, even him. The more he’s OK with speaking up, the better he’ll...
Tips to Get Your Kids Ready Faster In the Morning Before School

Tips to Get Your Kids Ready Faster In the Morning Before School

The morning rush is always a before-school chaotic conundrum. The kids needs to be bathed, dressed, fed, and packed for school or daycare. Parents need to get themselves ready too, leaving little time to get things done efficiently or on time. Oftentimes, we forget to do something important and feel frenzied throughout the process. Before you throw in the towel and accept this morning madness, try these tips to help you get the kids ready faster and more calmly. Yes, it can be done! The morning before-school pandemonium is about to change. Decide on Breakfast the Night Before  Don’t leave it to the kids to fuss over breakfast when you’re in a rush. By the time they’ve decided whether they’d prefer pancakes or oatmeal, they could have already eaten. After dinner the evening before, give the kids a moment to think about breakfast. Make it fun with a check-off list with 3 options, sort of like a room service slip. What they pick is what they get, no changes. A plus to this method is that you can prep the breakfast the night before. You can make pancake batter, set out the box of cereal, or slow-cook a crock pot of oats. The kids will love their “made-to-order” meal! Give Each Kid a Customized Cubby With books and personal belongings spread out all over the house, collecting everything the kids need before school can seem like a scavenger hunt. Create a simple cubby or set out a large bin in a convenient spot for each child to keep their individual backpack, scarf, toys, pencils, etc. You’ll know what belongs to...
How to Get Your Kid to Open Up About His or Her Day

How to Get Your Kid to Open Up About His or Her Day

After a long day at school, parents naturally want to know how their child’s day was. All those hours apart, and a mom or dad is more than eager to find out about schoolwork, playtime, friends, teachers, and after-school events. But often times, kids are not interested in talking. Perhaps they’re worn out after a full day or didn’t have the most interesting or positive day. Other times, kids would rather head off into their rooms to play or unwind. Whatever their reason may be for not wanting to chat about their day, parents still want some info. Here are some tips to get kids to open up and give you the lowdown about their day at school or daycare. Ask Specific Questions Rather than being overly broad and asking “how was your day?” ask pointed questions so your child can focus on a specific item rather than feeling overwhelmed with the prospect of having to rehash the full day at once. For instance, ask what she did or who she played with during recess or if she shared her snack with her best friend. Ask if the teacher picked her to answer any questions in class or what the best ‘show and tell’ item was. Once you ask one question and your child is excited to reply, then you can move on to something else. By the time you’re done chatting, you’ll have covered nearly everything you wanted to hear! Pick a Single Topic Like asking a specific question, sticking to one area of interest is also a great way to get your kid talking. Go for the...
Getting Kids Excited About Learning

Getting Kids Excited About Learning

Some kids were born to love school and embrace education. Others need a little nudge to realize how exciting learning can be. If your child falls into the latter category, there are some easy ways to get her interested in learning and actually looking forward to going to school every day. Learning is an adventure, and you can lead the way for your child’s path to achievement. Read Together Make reading something to look forward to by making it a family affair. Gather on the sofa and read books together after dinner or on the weekends rather than vegging out in front of the television. If your child likes bedtime stories, make it a ritual to read together as she drifts off to sleep. This imaginary world will expand her mind and have her looking forward to the next chapter. Help her realize that reading for school and homework is just as interesting as the books you read together at home. You’ll have a bookworm on your hands before you know it! Use Props If your child isn’t keen on math or science, use simple props in order to make the experience more hands-on and understandable. Use small toys or candies to help with addition or subtraction problems during math homework. Look up simple experiments online that you can do at home to make science more fun. When there’s something to visualize, some kids can better grasp the work and it becomes more interesting. Think of show and tell at school. There’s a reason there’s the “show” part. It makes the subject more engaging and exciting! Make Everyday Tasks...
The “Terrible Twos” How to Deal with Tantrums

The “Terrible Twos” How to Deal with Tantrums

It’s inevitable. Toddlers will throw tantrums. Whether you find yourself dealing with just a few or you’ve got a real tantrum type child, the way you deal with them makes a big difference in the outcome. It’s not easy, but you can and will get through what seems like moments of sheer torture. While it may take some time for success, try these tips when dealing with cases of toddler tantrums. Stay Calm When your child goes into tantrum mode, you may panic yourself. Your first inclination may be to raise your voice, grab your child, or basically freak out. This will only exacerbate the situation. Your child may expect you to feel the way he does – frustrated and upset. If your demeanor reveals even a hint of such emotions, your child will pick up on it and may continue on with his tantrum because he’s seeing a reaction. Despite your instincts, try to stay calm. Speak softly and hold your child gently. You may even try ignoring his behavior for a few moments to see if the volatility dies down. Your sense of peace and tranquility will help the tantrum run its course much better than if you entertain his irrational outburst. Remove Yourself and Your Toddler from the Area Depending upon where the tantrum happens, if it goes on too long, your best bet is to move to another location so you do not disturb those around you. It may be a battle to get your child off the floor or from flailing around, but you will have to contain the behavior. Once you are in...
5 Things to Look for in a Daycare Center

5 Things to Look for in a Daycare Center

If you’ve decided it’s best for your family to place your child in daycare, there are some important factors to consider to be sure you’ve chosen the most fitting place for your child. Before randomly choosing a daycare from the Yellow Pages, take these 5 items into account to ensure you’ve vetted all the pros and cons and have zeroed in on the daycare that will provide the most positive and successful experience for you child during this critical time in his or her life. While there may be other factors that are important to you, as we are all unique, these 5 things to look for will give you a head start in picking the daycare that’s closest to what you desire most. Take 5 and read these 5 before making this critical choice. It can affect your child’s well-being and development. Now it’s time for daycare! Proximity It’s most likely in your best interest and convenience to find a center that’s close enough for you to walk to, drive to, arrive by public transportation, or that has bussing service for the children. Seek out a daycare that is not only close, but in an area you feel is safe and secure. If it is within your means to send your child to a center that’s further away, by all means pick the best one which impresses you the most. Ideally, most parents prefer a daycare that’s nearby their home in case of emergency. Values It’s important that the center you select has the same or similar values that you hold dear. This may be a religious focus,...
Restaurant Wars! How to Get the Kids to Behave

Restaurant Wars! How to Get the Kids to Behave

Taking kids to a restaurant for a meal is a special treat. We all hope the kids will behave appropriately while out to eat, but as most parents have experienced, this isn’t always what happens. While at home, it’s not nearly as rude or embarrassing when the kids act up or have poor manners during mealtime, but when dining out, good behavior is the key to a successful and enjoyable experience for your family and those around you. Here are some tips to get the kids to exercise proper restaurant etiquette and how you can enforce the same behavior time and time again. Bon appetit! Practice at Home The best way to be sure kids will behave properly in restaurants is to practice the same type of behavior you expect while out at home. The kids should always say “please” and “thank you.” Teach the kids to eat tidily and without talking with a mouth full. They must remain seated until everyone is finished eating. Do not allow your child to fidget or play with food. There will be no fighting with siblings or refusal of the food they are served. Sure, this sounds like a fantasy, but the more practice the kids get, the more used to behaving during mealtime they’ll become. Don’t expect every meal to be perfect, this will take time and plenty of tries before the kids get it as close to acceptable as you’ll take it. Once they are well-trained at home, try dining out at kid-friendly restaurants and casual establishments. Offer Rewards Kids respond well to rewards for good behavior. Promise the kids...